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The Founders Retreat · Invitation Only

Cultivate

What matters.

Ten men. Three days. Six fields of a man's life, worked side by side with brothers who help him grow into the man God calls him to be.

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WhenJanuary 2027
WhereCarlton Landing, OK
Seats10 founders
Investment$3,000

Why we're gathering

Built for men
who want more.

Most men are carrying more than they let on. Business is moving, the calendar is full, and somewhere along the way faith, family and friendships got the leftovers.

Cultivate is two nights and three days with a hand-picked room of ten men. Honest teaching, hard physical challenges and real brotherhood. Nobody here is broken. We're here to tend what's been neglected and grow into the man God calls us to be.

"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up."Galatians 6:9

The framework

Six fields.
Tend them all.

Most men work one or two fields and let the rest go to weeds. Every man rates himself 1 to 10 in each one when he arrives. By the time he leaves, he has a written commitment for every field and a brother holding him to it.

01

Faith

Leading from conviction. Quiet time, scripture and reflection to anchor everything else.

02

Family

The husband and father you're being, versus the one you want to be.

03

Friends

Who's in your corner. Building real brotherhood that lasts past the weekend.

04

Fitness

Early workouts and physical challenges that test body and will.

05

Fun

Reclaiming play, adventure and presence with the people who matter.

06

Finance

Money as a tool for freedom, not a scoreboard.

The weekend

Three days.
Break ground.

Day 1Break ground
  • Arrival and check-in. Phones put away.
  • Opening circle and ground rules
  • Six F self-scorecard
  • First physical challenge
  • Dinner together
  • Circle of truth: your story, and the area you've neglected
Day 2The intensive
  • Wake up: 5 minutes reading, 5 praying, 5 journaling
  • Workout and stretch
  • Breakfast, shower and get ready for the day
  • Faith, Family and Friends
  • Lunch
  • Breakouts
  • Second physical challenge
  • Fun activity
  • Celebration dinner
  • Hot seats: Brotherhood
Day 3Take ground
  • Wake up: 5 minutes reading, 5 praying, 5 journaling
  • Workout and stretch
  • Breakfast, shower and get ready for the day
  • Your 90-day plan: one commitment per field
  • Accountability pairs assigned
  • Closing circle
  • Depart

After the weekend

Weekly check-ins with your accountability brother, a monthly group call for 90 days, and the option to keep growing through ongoing coaching.

Ready to
do the work.

Who this is for

Meet the coaches

Who's leading
the room.

Alan Kilian

Alan Kilian

Entrepreneur · Executive coach · Business strategist

Alan Kilian has spent more than two decades building, scaling and leading more than 15 companies across multiple industries. From startups to established organizations, he has helped business owners simplify operations, strengthen leadership, improve profitability and build companies that create freedom, not dependence.

"You either own the business or the business owns you. It's up to you to decide."

Alan is passionate about helping business owners eliminate bottlenecks, develop high-performing teams and become the leaders their businesses need to reach the next level. Through honest conversations, strategic clarity and unwavering accountability, Alan equips leaders to build stronger businesses, stronger families and lives of lasting significance.

Brett Wilson

Brett Wilson

Coach · Church leader · Endurance athlete

"What qualifies you to do this?" For Brett, the answer is tied to the very reason God put him on this earth.

"Often, the things we don't go looking for are the things we are meant to do."

Inspiring people to grow is his passion. He helps others discover their purpose, overcome fear and reduce stress so they thrive in every area of life.

Brett lives in Tulsa with his wife, Brooke, and their three children. He leads in his church, is an endurance athlete, and enjoys golf, hunting and playing music alongside his kids.

Derek England

Derek England

Husband · Dad · Speaker · Coach

Derek England has spent over two decades in marriage and ministry, and he brings every bit of that lived experience into the conversations he has with the families he coaches. He has a rare gift for making the deep things feel accessible: with humor, honesty and a heart that genuinely cares, he helps families see who God created them to be and actually live it out with clarity, courage and direction.

"Your family has a God-given identity and a God-given assignment. My job is to help you discover both, and then build a life that reflects them."

Derek co-hosts the Family on Purpose podcast with his wife, Gina, where they equip families to grow in faith, pursue unity and live with bold intentionality. A firm believer in the power of spoken belief and prayerful living, Derek's coaching is marked by encouragement, authenticity and an unshakeable conviction that every family, including yours, is capable of becoming exactly what God designed it to be.

He and Gina have been married over 20 years and are raising two children.

Claim your seat

Apply.

If you're here, someone thought you belong in this room. Applying takes about ten minutes. We read every one personally and follow up with a short fit call.

  1. ApplyThis form
  2. Fit call20 minutes
  3. Deposit$1,000 holds your seat
  4. Balance$2,000 due 30 days out
About you
Your six fields

Be honest. Rate where you are today, 1 (struggling) to 10 (thriving).

The real stuff